Understanding men

One of world’s perennial problems is men understanding women and vice-versa, the primary factor being that the brains of these two sub-species are wired so differently. Unfortunately, neither acknowledges this difference in the wake of a bumpy situation.

Girls, face it – men are not (ofcourse, I’m generalising) as complicated as women are, as far as the thought process is concerned. And women are not as upfront as most men are.

Every spat, with my husband, over something whipping up a storm in my head, usually ended in a blind alley. It left me with the cinders still burning beneath the ashes; and I, usually, sensed a feeling of confused consternation in my hubby. Being a man, he’d find a way of waving it aside, but I’d still crave for some justice. A series of meaningless squabbles over baseless issues - such as an unkempt room, unpaid electricity bill, unacknowledged attempt at new dish for dinner – helped the penny drop. There was a pattern to it all.

Firstly, each time, I had allowed my over-active imagination to concoct the cause and effect of any situation, most of them sheer and mere imaginary. Next, I started the argument in the middle of the series of my rustled up thoughts. Obviously, this led to an altercation, more meaningless and less fruitful than it might have been. I struck upon a simple solution:
a. Always start at the beginning – lets the man know the root cause clearly
b. Keep it simple and as short as possible – believe me, men are more impatient, as opposed to the stereotypical woman.
c. Ask for help in simple and direct terms – they don’t read between lines
d. Allow them their time to do it – they need not get down to the task immediately, but do eventually

My theory stood the test of time! And this Valentine’s morning, I woke up a little unwell and tired; nevertheless, I wanted to keep my promise of making one of hubby’s favourite dishes for lunch. I explained my condition to him and requested him to buy breakfast from a nearby fast-food joint plus help with the laundry. He not only gladly obliged, but also went a step ahead and took care of our toddler’s bath and dressing up. He couldn’t have given me a better Valentine day’s gift!!